Tuesday, September 15, 2009

on and on and on

Next to genocide and onions the things I hate most are breakups*. They pretty much suck. And I feel really sad when my friends are dealing with them in any capacity. In a rare showing of pessimism, I'll ask this question: what's the point of relationships? Can't they only ever end in disappointment i.e. one person dies or you break up?

I suppose unless you're Mother Teresa or Gandhi (notice that both of whom are dead), it's impractical to live your life in abstinence or even Relationship Purgatory -- that state where you're in a relationship but you act like you're not -- in perpetuity. So I guess despite the pain and the fear and all that, you surrender again to the possibility of something new because there will always being something new. Et cetera.


I've decided to delete weird/rude comments. I'd like to think that I can brush shit off, but I'm not really that kind of girl. I could wait for enlightenment or for obtaining some other state where other people's criticisms no longer bug me, but what for - when it brings me greater pleasure to just delete what I don't want to look at?

*I wrangled with this sentence for a good 45 minutes. First it was: "Next to genocide and onions the thing I hate most is break-ups." Then it was: "Next to genocide and onions the thing I hate most are break-ups." And finally I settled on the one I posted. Any thoughts, my grammar friends?


Joslyn Hamilton said...

This is why I'm becoming a Buddhist. Because life is suffering. The only way you can get through it is to try your best to release your attachments.

Also, I am pretty sure you made the right grammatical move there. Nice going.

Joslyn (not anonymous, cuz I have the balls to stand behind whatever I say)

peewee said...

Do you ever read dooce.com? Well anyhoo, she gets all these crazy hate letters/comments. SO yesterday she launched the site monetize the hate http://dooce.com/hate/
and littered it with tons of ads and all the hate mail. SO now she'll make money off the haters! HA! awesome, right!?

vanessa said...


if it were okay for buddhists to kill cockroaches and mosquitoes, i'd be joining you on that path.


that shit's brilliant. now i'm just pissed i don't get more hate mail.

Anonymous said...

Your humanity is starting to show.

Dear Brutal Truth said...

The sentence you posted is gramatically correct.

Anonymous said...

Sure, life is suffering, but buck up and attach away. The point to relationships, like life in general, is embracing the journey. Life is a means to an end, where the end is death. If you're willing/wanting to have a mogul run on that downhill slope, it's exhilarating to succeed as long as (or because) you are aware that the crashes will hurt harder.

vanessa said...

Anon, but what's success? Are relationships really like moguls? If at the end of every mogul you could only either die or crash super hard would that be success?

Anonymous said...

Yes. How about high wire act instead of moguls. A high wire that leads into a black void but a high wire nonetheless. Sure, you can just walk underneath it towards the very same eventual void, but that's no fun. Also, something about getting back on horses.